After the previous post about Dating differences between different cultures, which seemed you liked a lot, visitors-wise, I came out with this one, being slightly relative, and I hope useful.
I bet there is not a SINGLE reader amongst you that hasn’t being advised/heard the epic:
“Don’t call today! Let him/her wait.”
Back in February, I got to talking with some Americans, and they explained me the “Three Day Rule”: According to that “Rule”, after meeting someone you have to wait Three days in order to call/text him. The purpose, as you may already have understood, Act Busy.
Recently, a German friend, told me there’s even a saying about that. “By making yourself rare, you become important“.
The saying in Greece, and trying to translate, goes something like: “The more your spit on the back of the stamp, the more it sticks on the envelope.”
But is it that simple?
First of all, a person who acts busy in order to make me want him/her more, just messes around with my egoism. My pride. It doesn’t really cultivate the relationship, it doesn’t make me love someone more about who he/she REALLY is. It works, but on the short term. It maybe spices things up in the beginning, but should be really discrete and used with caution, in my point of view. What happens if we ALL act busy? I don’t think we’ll manage to see each other in the end.
STILL, I find that even experienced people, do it. And it’s frustratingly annoying. Sometimes it’s so obvious, that it pisses you off. It is just provocative. For example, if you’re a student on holidays, and all you do is jerk-off and hang out, then well, it’s obvious! On the other hand, if you work 09:00 – 17:00, it can happen that you can be busy by daily stuff. But as we all know, if you want, you can.
If you are doing it just to do it, and at the same time you are really interested for the other person, I’d say think about it twice. You may be pushing him/her away instead of getting him closer to you. Meeting someone new means sharing more stuff than other people, in order to actually KNOW him/her.
My advice, if you really want something that will last longer, instead of acting busy, try to cultivate yourselves, so that you impress positively the other person. Hobbies, interests. Find things you have in common. If you find that the other person is doing it, then try and have a face to face honest conversation to discover possible VALID reasons he is busy. Maybe fear of moving too fast or doubt of your intentions. Or, in the opposite side, not enough interest (you can tell). An EX who is still running in the mind, or just plain incompatibility. That will save you some time.
