Throughout the years, since I remember me, I was always the shy kid. The one never chosen for gym class and the basket team. The one who had a late first date. The one who avoided clubbing and social gatherings.
I must admit, although I knew who I was, I was never really happy with it.
I couldn’t stand that I’ll spend my teenage years playing.. Dungeons and Dragons, or listening to heavy metal, pretending to be a cool distanced guy, who tasted and rejected the mainstream pleasures of life, while in reality being a big old scared introvert.
So instead of staying in a world that would suit me, I decided to just go against the flow.
Now, let me tell you folks, going against who you were born to be, is maybe on of the toughest things a man can do.
Fighting nature seems to be an endless battle.
As most of you well know, a bit less than one year ago, driven by a completely irrelevant motivation – forget a personal story – I left my home country, in a hunt for a better life.
Honestly, the last year here, was maybe a unique experience, a year filled with moments, images, people and situations that I will never forget.
BUT as this year reaches its end, I realize that, I am still the same guy:
- Pretending to be outgoing, but deep inside, really introvert.
- Acting as cool, but maybe still uptight.
- Giving the image of a womanizer, but still hopelessly romantic.
And I must say, this creates some more questions.
I am a man of reason, and I like to analyze situations with facts. Causes, and effects.
I know well, that coming here, helped a lot. My life improved. I am happier, for sure.
Still, I feel that as this place has many similarities with the previous place, many issues ain’t resolved.
Several friends of mine, maybe the closest, have heard me saying where I’d like to go next.
At my 26 years now, I think I understand that my introvert nature, my tendency to avoid speaking about me, showing off, bragging, insulting, etc, pushes me towards a place were social relationships and behaviors are really different than the country I was born in. And now I think I finally know where this region is.
It is funny. Or exciting.
Have you ever had this feeling, this incomprehensible feeling, that you should “go” somewhere? That even though you haven’t ever seen a place in your life, you have images of yourself living, falling in love and growing old there?
Well I have had it since a very long time.
Years ago, after some reading, I got convinced that our life, is one life in a series of many lifetimes, in which we try to get better. We come back to life, trying to resolve issues that we didn’t in our previous one, with goals set by a higher being – or a higher-self one might say.
Most of you maybe find it stupid, childish as a theory, but anyway this is the closest to an answer in my head to “why things happen as they do”.
completely different topic:
Watching “How I Met your Mother” lately, (with multiple reviews), I’ve been incredibly shocked about how much I am.. TED.
Gosh.
The endless soul-searching, the super-analyzing of relationships, being spontaneous, the efforts of being “awesome” (well, I do a bit better it’s true lol) .
I guess identifying yourself in a popular TV series means something:
If someone thought about it, then it exists. So, you’re not alone.
Anyway, I’m a bit tipsy and it’s already getting.. 4.
Promise to post more often, being pretty busy lately, trying to make things true about my future as said above. But I don’t worry. It’s meant to be.